You may think it’s about how to find love or how to fix issues in a relationship. If so, I’m afraid I might disappoint you. If that’s what you are seeking, you may as well look elsewhere.
Because I am not here to help you find your Prince(ss) Charming.
I don’t even believe s/he exists. I’ve found a love of my life that goes beyond anything I could have imagined, so yes, I believe in romantic love– but I am hardly Cinderella. Or at least not the Disneyfied version. The only Cinderella I’ve ever related to is Drew Barrymore in Ever After. And she rescues herself.
Nor am I here to solve the overwhelming chasm between the two of you. I am not a marriage counselor or a relationship therapist, and I have no interest in fixing your broken or bruised relationship.
But I will help you.
Because I believe that the secret to happiness is not a secret at all, but a way of life.
I am not the wealthiest person, nor the most intellectually blessed, nor the most confident. I’ve been called “awkwardly charming,” and through that awkward charm I’ve arrived at a place that I feel loved, safe, and content.
I believe the same principles that are the foundation of a strong romantic relationship are the same as those that build strong friendships, family relationships, etc. And I believe that if you seek out loving and emotionally intimate relationships with someone, everything will naturally fall into the place which is meant to be with you and with them. And that for me is happiness.
Therefore, the content will often be about concepts related to relationships, as much as they are about relationships themselves.
Some of the writings may be about loving others; some about loving (and understanding) oneself; or about human nature and how it relates to loving relationships.
Some may be an observation on how one relationship I’ve known has work (although I try to not share something that I haven’t seen work in multiple situations).
Some may be advice on a particular trouble in a relationship.
But all will be because of love. Because all love is beautiful!
I write because it brings me joy to share what I’ve learned about human nature, love, and relationships. Because I’ve not found a resource that doesn’t make me cringe, or at best, roll my eyes at various Things That Are So and Things That Cannot Be Done.
Except I’ve done those things before. And I’ve seen examples where commonly held wisdom simply isn’t true and doesn’t work (unless perhaps you have crazy amounts of money and privilege, yes, then you can luckily find the love of your life only two days after winning the lottery. I mean, that happens to everyone, right?)
I’m not saying that everything I write is gospel, but it’s worked fairly solidly for me and those I know– and I think it’s worth sharing.
I also write to gain feedback on my theories, so please do comment. While I prefer you not to simply troll my works, I will engage in civil debate. After all, this should be an evolution of thought.
Hopefully, you feel the same!
Please join me in seeking to understand how live works and might work, as you jump down the rabbit hole with me.
And remember, all I want to do is help you find that way for yourself!