In the aftermath of Game 3 of the Stanley Cup Finals, A Panthers player held a Golden Knights player back while Matthew Tkachuk punched him in the face. Skirmishes aside, it was a shitty thing to do. In any other circumstances, that’s assault. It wasn’t hitting or knocking into someone during play. The game was …
petty assault and the reality of “no consequences” Read More »
Vegas Golden Knights are killing it, and I’m excited because, well, I’ve never had a team before, not locally. Plus, I’m starting to get into hockey this past decade. So when a new team arose like a phoenix, burning a path behind it, well, cool! They’re even better now than before, when they were comprised …
being second choice is actually pretty damn good Read More »
Am I polyamorous? So many ways to interpret the question. Some people want the word to mean anything and everything. Bit frustrating. I got this all the time, as a queer person, when it came to defining bisexuality. Meeting women who said they were bi, but meant, “I like to make out with women in …
Conversation with Kitty and an undisclosed person who may or may not be entirely imaginary, but still… What do you mean by sensualist, Kitty? After all, we’re all sensualists. We all savor the senses. But I don’t necessarily mean that when I say sensualist. Throngs of men will say “beautiful!” and “sexy!” in response to a …
conversation on sensualism, hedonism, and sapiosexuals Read More »
Welcome to the, “Do You Want A Threesome?” Test! Sure, you’ve been told things like “Every guy wants a threesome!” and “Who wouldn’t want a threesome?” But there are some godawful threesomes happening right this very moment– and a basic compatibility test might do folk a world of good! Ready? Let’s dive in! I want …
Heat. Fire play is actually more about heat than it is flames. One feels the sensation, without being burned. The fire warms the body (and sometimes implements, such as fire cups). It provides the most amazing subspace (at least for me). It can be low risk, though it is never without risk. I personally engage …
aftercare is what we provide to our partners “afterwards,” whatever that means loving, gentle or isolation, or whatever we need “afterwards,” whenever that “afterwards” occurs my “after” happens very quickly, a snuggle, water that magically appears by my side when I hold out my hand, eyes still closed until they can stand light, any light, …
Greed is normal, jealousy is normal. But what does “normal” even mean? Is it what is common? What is natural? What is right? I go to a doctor, I say I’m feeling “normal” today. My chronic pain is “normal.” That, of course, differs from those with lesser or greater chronic pain. It is, however, normal …
Jealousy is a powerful driver. It can consume and destroy lives. I still remember the oldest munchkin, then age 6, sighing as she shook her head, “Jealousy.” (We were talking about her biological mother, and she brought the word up, not me.) But her mother feels jealousy over her children. I am at a loss …
